Sunday, March 04, 2007

Svithe on my preoccupation: an explanation for my absence

I'll just spit it right out. I'm pregnant.

Wow that felt good. I've wanted to tell you ever since I found out last Monday, but Matt really wanted to wait till my first trimester was over. But who are we kidding here people? It's ME we're talking about! He does know, by the way, that I am writing this. I waited a week at least....

He and I have two very different ideas of communication. He likes to tell people things only when necessary. When it is necessary he keeps it to the very basics. He hates divulging personal information. I think he'd have a heart attack if he knew everything I put in our Christmas letters and my blogs. (But I'm not stopping him from reading them and editing out what he wants. He chooses not to read, so I choose to write what I want.) I try to restrain myself on very personal issues, but it is hard. I do that only because I love him. I, on the other hand, will tell my life story to someone I just met if I happen to feel a good vibe or connection upon our meeting. I don't like keeping secrets. I usually want everyone to know everything about me so they know what they're getting into.

Onto the svithe:
A miracle could be defined as "a marvelous event manifesting a supernatural act of God." Many people (Christians included) think miracles don't happen today. I beg to differ.

When we saw our specialist at the end of last year, we were told that it was highly unlikely that we'd get pregnant on our own; he said to get medical help rather than just pray for a miracle. I pretty much resigned myself to the fact that it would be a year, at the very least , before I'd be able to get pregnant. We took the necessary medical steps in the right direction, but continued praying all the while.

I've always had faith that things would work out like they're supposed to. I just got frustrated when I didn't know the plan. I knew we'd have kids, I just didn't know when, how, or what we'd need to do first to obtain them. God knows the plan for my life, but I wished he'd just let me in on the secret so I could get on with things.

I don't think the Lord really likes to be bossed around, so I kept the prayers to something like, "We're ready. Help us to know what to do. Thy will be done." I have faith the Lord can do anything. If it was His will, I'd have gotten pregnant immediately. "For with God nothing shall be impossible." (Luke 1:37) But it wasn't. So I just had to have faith that things were going the way they were supposed to. Some weeks were easier than others. I had a couple of cries. But overall I figured life would work out, and it is.

We got pregnant the week before any of the medical help. I think it was the Lord's way of reminding me He works miracles and that we need to pray for them when it seems most unlikely for them to occur. Such is the nature of a miracle.

Oh, and I'm due the last week of October as far as I can tell.

10 comments:

Th. said...

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Look! I get to be the first to congratulate you electronically!

You know, Lady Steed is quite jealous of your due date--it's the one she's always wanted.

Care to trade?

Lindsay said...

Wow!!! Congratulations! What exciting news!

While I'm kind of an advocate of the whole "waiting till the first trimester's over" because of the messy miscarriage business we went through, I totally understand the itchiness you naturally feel to want to tell everyone. But I completely agree that pregnancy is a total miracle. There's so many intricate details that have to go just right in order for life to be created. It amazes me every time I think about it.

Anyway, congrats again, and I hope you aren't feeling too sick yet (or, even better, that you never feel sick at all...because the throwing up part of pregnancy totally stinks). Be sure to keep us posted!

Jessica Baird said...
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AmyJane said...

Yay! That's super exciting news, and I hope everything goes well. I couldn't keep pregnancy to myself either--to each his own style I say.
BTW, my little guy was born October of 05 and it was pretty much perfect timing. Having a newborn during the stay inside winter season really worked for me.

Jessica Baird said...

Congrats!!! I am SO excited for you! I am glad that you are so open, I feel the same way and my hubby is very much like yours. Maybe that's just what happens when MFHD marries computer science. Anyway, I hope you keep us updated on how you're doing etc.

nanci said...

Yeah!!! I am overjoyed for you. A good reason for being out of the blog world for a bit. I have contacted a bunch of 201 warders to get on the blog train, so due to my link to your blog, word may spread faster in that group than you would have thought! Congrats!

Celia Marie (W.) B. said...

Th., sorry, but I think I'll keep my date. It seems handy not to be 9 months pregnant in the middle of a TX summer. I hope to enjoy it as much as amyjane.

The only kind of scary thing it rsv season right around the corner. Plus I REALLY want to go to CA for Christmas and getting on a plane with a 2 mo. old during RSV season is not optimal. However, I will put a little mask on them and forge ahead I think...

As for the whole miscarriage waiting period, I think I'd tell you all if that were to happen anyway. I like sharing in both my joy and mourning. I don't like doing emotional things on my own. Heck, I don't generally like doing anything on my own. And Jess, I've thought the same thing.

Nanci, I'm SUPER excited you have your own blog now.

Thanks for all the well wishes!

FoxyJ said...

Yeah! Hooray for miracles! :)

Yankee Haffners said...

Wonderful News! What a happy time you. (I'm a 201er you didn't think would hear about this thanks for Nanci!)

Lesley Haffner

Sarah said...

!!!!!!

I am THRILLED! Matt, schmatt. Keep the personal info coming. Besides, this would be a hard one to keep under wraps for long. The kid will be talking in a few years and probably have his/her own blog by age 5 and we'd all find out.

Did I mention I'm THRILLED!!!!